I was listening to my favorite morning radio show on my way to work today, when they started discussing an interesting topic. It was about a survey conducted by a Mom's website about sex. They had surveyed 25,000 married woman with kids, and determined that they have sex a lot less than they did before kids.
They went on to talk about the reasons why, which included exhaustion and negative body image, among a few other things. One of the stats was that something like 60% of Moms said that they'd rather read a book, than have sex with their husbands. Hello! Who wouldn't? Just kidding. Sort of. I totally understood the results of the survey - I mean preferring to read a book doesn't really have anything to do with not wanting to have sex with your husband, it's just about needing some relaxing "me time" instead.
After hearing numerous women call in to say that they wanted to have sex ALL THE TIME, it was their husbands who didn't ever want to have sex - I was getting a little fired up. First of all, I think that a lot of these women were missing the point and didn't hear the first part of the show, where they explained that it was a survey of Moms. Secondly, I think that there are a lot of exhausted Dads too. Thirdly, I don't think that sex is non-existent after you have kids, I just think it changes. A lot.
So, I called in.
They put me on the show, and here's what I said: I've been married for 10 years, I have 2 kids and I'm exhausted. The biggest turn on for me these days, is if my husband DOES THE DISHES! The female DJ on the show said "Ding, ding, ding! Exactly! How about telling me how much you appreciate all the hard work I do taking care of the family, and doing the dishes while I go to bed and read a book. Then maybe you'd get some when you come to bed with me, instead of when you sneak up on me naked while I'm making the kid's lunches."
Later on, a few of my friends called me to say that they'd heard me on the radio, and were cracking up about it. Guess I'll have to tell my husband when he gets back from his latest business trip, before he hears about it from all our friends.